The author offers her perspective on dating non-Black men in this revisited May 2014 article as one who likes all men of all stripes
September 18, 2019
I will be A black girl who dates the “rainbow. ” I was involved with in the past 10 years into one room (that group includes random dates, relationships, situationships and that one time I got married), you’d have a fabulous, multihued bouquet of masculine beauty if you put every guy. A form, smart man whom moves me personally, could possibly rock beside me, aside from competition or ethnicity. I’m maybe not on that absurd color-blind train; I’m just an equal-opportunity dater.
Almost all my Black girlfriends exclusively and purposely date Ebony males, thus I have lots of questions regarding my UN-friendly dating roster and nearly all of those concerns are concerning the white dudes. “Is it pink? ” “Are you sure it’s maybe perhaps not some jungle fever kind thing? ” “Has he seen Love Jones? ” The answers to those concerns relies on the guy—could be tan, red or some combination. Only one time was it a fetish thing on the guy’s end, and I also deaded that the moment I became aware. Seeing certain films is perhaps not just a relationship requireme personallynt of me. You better know and love Stevie ponder, however. That’s life there.
Then there’s two statements that are troubling we usually hear. The very first is, “I’m so tired of these black colored men. Ina moment, I’m planning to end up like both you and find a White boy. ” Ugh.
You shouldn’t date someone of a specific battle because you’re feeling exhausted because of the antics of males of another competition. (more…)