I’m a black colored US woman, and I also identify as a “slave.” Yes, the term is fraught with shameful history, however it has another meaning one that’s sexual and freeing, rather than oppressive and controlling. As being a practitioner that is longtime of (bondage, control, dominance and distribution), we see slaves as individuals who willingly surrender control for their partner or “master.” As a descendant of African Americans who were legally enslaved for years and years, nevertheless, the expressed term additionally conjures up violent pictures of my ancestors’ pain and suffering. For 18 years, those two definitions clashed in my own brain, and so I denied being fully a servant. (more…)