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Whether you re already a parent or you’re childfree, dating someone with kids is hard whether you love kids or can’t stand them. Disproportionately, mystifyingly, unbelievably difficult.

There is a number of grounds for this.Trying to match love in around a schedule that is at the very least two times as chaotic as other folks’s. Exponentially increased possibility of drama and stress. That whole “kids come first” thing creating abominable snowmonsters where there used to be unique snowflakes that are little. Nobody respect that is having their damn elders anymore.

Just because your brand-new partner gets along joyfully using their ex, no matter if your personal future stepkids are a total pleasure, also underneath the best circumstances feasible, there is a million more balls to juggle whenever dating some one with young ones when compared with regular relationship. And undoubtedly, the portion of stepparents-in-training that are dating under perfect circumstances is some teensy small fraction of an even smaller %.

Life has already been complicated. You have got work or school, a busy social life, bills, cleaning up the kitty litter box, remembering to grab spaghetti sauce on the road home… Adding an average relationship in there someplace can feel just like a little bit of a squeeze that is tight. (more…)